the role of the lover in the path to enlightenment

looking at monks (even priests, nuns, etc) one doesn't immediately see a need for a lover 
or companionship in the path towards the elimination of all suffering.  in fact, my bet 
is that celabacy is included in the criteria.  maybe its just because of the higher level 
these prime examples of spiritual beings are at that they need to refrain from 
interacting with the opposite sex.  maybe at that ponit their minds are so developed that 
lose their gender.  but whatever reason they have, I DONT.  something in me just yearns 
for my other half.  the key is my other half will have to be just right.  not just 
anybody will fit the bill.  but the minuteness of the chance of finding such a person has 
had no effect on my desire.  i've found incredible amounts of joy through meditation and 
understanding but there's a hole in me.  and i don't see how any amount of understanding 
will ever fill it in.  maybe its all natural (thats usually the case).  maybe you 
graduate from ignorant-human to no-need-for-companionship-human when after so many 
lifetimes you finally realize the true meaning of love, thus you begin the search for 
your soulmate.  after however many lifetimes it takes to find them, you both enjoy your 
time together and tie your hearts and souls together so strong you actually become one.  
from then on, you travel into your subsequent and now spiritually oriented lives together 
and without the need for another companion because in each new life you end up in, you 
always take a little bit of your soulmate with you.  that would make karmic sense to me.